What's Love Really Got to Do With It?

As we near the end of October, I felt compelled to address one very important issue, which is often overlooked, brushed under the rug and sometimes disregarded, Domestic Violence.  Because Domestic Violence shares the month of October with Breast Cancer Awareness, it is often overshadowed.   Nonetheless, it is of equal importance, as many women lose their lives yearly at the hands of significant others.  Strangely enough, these are women who go to work everyday, attend church every Sunday and appear to live happily amongst us all.  Unfortunately, it’s all a façade to cope. 

Sadly, the first couple that came to mind when I reflected on this subject was Chris Brown and Rhianna.  Many on the outside looking in have formulated opinions about Chris and Rhianna. I have even witnessed people jokingly discussing the couple’s misfortune. However, doing so distracts us all from what’s important. The fact of the matter is Rhianna was hurt at the hands of her lover and that’s not cool.  Further, criticism of the young couple has begun to resurface, due to the couple being recently spotted together.  Is she wrong for going back?  It's not for me to judge.   

While I am one who believes a relationship is between two people and only the two people in that relationship should determine what makes them happy, I am also one who knows that true love should never hurt.  Sure, challenges and difficulties can and will arise, however, challenges and difficulties should never lead to cuts, bruises, self-esteem scarring, hospitalization or a casket.  

If you are in a violent relationship and you don’t have a strategy to get out, here is the Domestic Violence Hotline # 1-800-799-SAFE.